was just online surfing and went on Necole Bitchie's blog ... first post was a video. all i saw was a dude with super straight teeth and a tie dyed shirt - so you know i had to check him out. i love me some gay men. LOL. but, after i started listening, this man was really analyzing relationships : listen
well i hate to say that he is wrong, because a lot of what he is said is the truth. i thought it was just me that is super territorial and wants to claim things so other people cant have it , but all of us do that when we say "my hubby, my wifey" or when we living with people that we talk to or when we put shit in our significant other names (i cant even say our cuz i have never and will NEVER do not shit like that. thats on the list with getting a tattoo of the dude i talk to name. aint no love strong enough for that. get the hell out.)
what i did find interesting was what he said about cheating : in the first 2 min of the video he stated that if you arent married, you are single. so dating someone really doesnt have any committment. when you talk to someone it is kinda of understood that you wont talk to anyone else or fuck anyone else , but if they do, people cant really get upset. the person only BROKE THEIR WORD that they wouldnt cheat. they didnt break a committment so you or God or any vow. they just broke their word that said they wouldnt do it. or maybe they didnt even say it at all.
So he believes that when you first start dating someone, you need to communicate and after the first 3 months of dating - you reevaulate the situation. and if both parites feel like its gon go somewhere - then continue but if its not working, you both route. i do agree with this whole idea and when he said that a lot of people would not have missed out on the people that they were SUPPOSED to be dating cuz they out spending so much time on people that they ARENT.
overall - i agree with dude. dont agree with his shirt. but def. feel where he was coming from . . .
and it makes me feel like i aint as crazy as i thought i was lol.